By Lisa Milbrand (she's amazing!)on REAL SIMPLE

The best gifts aren’t always the most expensive. In fact, free (or almost free) presents usually require a bit more thought, care, and creativity than a “saw this at the mall and thought of you” gift. Giving of yourself and your time and energy will definitely be appreciated by the recipient—and if you’re trying to save money or budget better, it’s a win-win.
Check out these 23 free gift ideas to consider for the holidays, birthdays, anniversaries, or any other gift-giving occasion. Even if you aren’t particularly crafty, you should be able to pull off something special and meaningful to celebrate your family member or friend without spending very much money.

1. Do something nice in their name. Spend some time volunteering for a charity or group that is especially meaningful for them. You can take a day to clean up trash on a park or beach, donate blood, or sign up for a shift serving others at a soup kitchen. It’s a totally free gift that will make you both feel great.
2. Create a 21st century mix tape. Craft a customized playlist to share with them. You can include songs that remind you of special memories or inside jokes from your past, or just create a playlist of new music you think they’ll love. If they’re old school, you can still burn a CD or put it on a cassette, or simply share it with them via Spotify or another streaming service.
   
3. Write down some wonderful moments with them. Remember that time? Make sure that they do, too. Write all of your favorite memories with them on small slips of paper, and place them in a pretty jar with a label like “Jar of Awesome.” Include some blank slips of paper so your recipient can continue the tradition with new memories as you make them. 
   
4. Re-gift wisely. Shop from home, literally. Odds are, you have something in your house that your friend or family member will love—whether it’s that vase your friend has always complimented, or a book you’ve finished that you know your sister will adore. Share generously. 
   
5. Cook them something tasty. Sure, you’ll have to spring for the ingredients, but who can turn down cookies or cake, a killer homemade granola, or another special treat?
   
6. Give them the gift of time. If there’s anything we’ve learned in 2020, it’s the importance of spending time with the people you really love. So make your gift a commitment to spend time with them, whether it’s a monthly date for tea and conversation or a special weekend away with far-flung friends.
   
7. Grow them something. A pretty plant always makes a lovely gift. (Just remember that you’ll need to start early if you’re growing from seed or bulbs.)
   
8. Write them some 'just in case' letters. Write a series of heartfelt letters to suit different occasions, and label them—“Read this when you’re feeling blue,” or “Read this when you have something to celebrate.” You’ll be there to send just the right message at just the right moment.
   
9. Plan a day of (free) fun. Give them a homemade gift card entitling them to a fully planned day of fun, whether you take your nephew on a tour of all the best local playgrounds or treat your mom to her favorite art museum (on free admission day).
   
10. Hand down your family's secret recipes. Does everyone want to know the secret to your chocolate chip cookies or does Grandma have a killer pasta sauce recipe? Write out your very best dishes on recipe cards or compile them into a booklet for the perfect gift for cooks.
    
11. Send them flowers. If you have access to a garden, you can DIY a bouquet of lovely blooms. Tie them with a ribbon or a piece of twine, and you’re good to go.
    
12. Make your own mix in a jar. Upcycle old pasta sauce jars and layer in all the dry ingredients for oatmeal cookies, hot chocolate, or another favorite treat.
    
13. Go old school with a pet rock. No need to spend for a “real” pet rock when there’s probably one waiting just steps outside your front door. All you need is a box and a link to one of the tongue-in-cheek care manuals online, and you’re in business.
    
14. Send a message to the future. Put together a time capsule and time stamp when it’ll be ready to open. This makes an especially nice (and free!) gift for the under-18 crowd. You can capture all of their current interests in passions so your tween niece will be able to look back at her K-POP obsession in a decade or so.
    
15. Print a favorite photo of them. Whether you make a copy of that pic of you and your BFF in full 90s grunge mode or a recent shot of a family vacation, the photo will likely find a place of honor in their home. (And odds are, you have an extra frame or two at home you can use for it.)
    
16. Create a video tribute. Celebrate them by compiling photos and asking other family members and friends to share their favorite memories and feelings about your recipient. Edit it together (we love Tribute for the ease of collaborating and editing), and you’ll have a priceless free gift for your loved one.
    
17. Showcase the family tree. Become the family genealogist and start Googling for details from the past. You can draw it out on paper and frame it for your history buff loved one.
    
18. DIY a family (or friend group) trivia game. Can everyone remember the name of your little brother’s imaginary friend, or which college roommate had the peach-and-mint color scheme? Write up the Qs and As and have a fun get-together to see who wins bragging rights. (If you’re feeling really creative, make up a full-on game with a board and playing pieces or a digital Jeopardy-style game.)
    
19. Give them some inspiration. If you have a pretty blank notebook at home, you can jazz up the cover and turn it into a gratitude journal for them. Use your best handwriting and adorn the pages with some inspirational messages (try a few famous positive quotes to get started).
    
20. DIY some art supplies. You can make play dough, slime, or even finger paints with some common ingredients you probably have at home right now.
    
21. Be their sitter. Coupons good for free house-sitting, pet-sitting, or babysitting would likely be welcome by any gift recipient.
    
22. Set-up a scavenger hunt. Great fun as a group gift, you can send your recipients around the house, around the block, or around town looking for a list of items or activities. (Bonus points if you use a theme, especially if it’s objects or places that are special to you—i.e, “Take a selfie in front of our first apartment building”).
    
23. Share some mementos. Put together a little book or box with some priceless artifacts—old ticket stubs, brochures, playbills, and other items from times you’ve spent together. For bonus points, include a short sentence or two about what you remember from every adventure.
    

From Connecticut Children's Medical Center - great resource!

By: Amy Adolfo Signore, PhD, MPH and Emily Wakefield, PsyD
This year has been difficult to say the least. With the holidays approaching – and the challenges and uncertainty of the coronavirus pandemic still ongoing – you may be wondering how to help your child cope with the disappointment of things being different this year.
Connecticut Children’s pediatric psychologists join the blog with advice.
(We’ve grouped suggestions by age, but tips for younger children apply to older children and adults alike.)


       0-3 years old: Focus on quality time during the holidays – and don’t worry about the details.

• Children this age will not be able to recall detailed memories of holidays past and will not recall the events of this year in the future.
• It’s okay to keep things very simple for children this age in terms of celebrations and explanations.
• All children benefit from having quiet-down time to feel love and attention from parents. With social distancing and quarantine measures in place, this is the perfect season to indulge kids with affection. 
  4-6 years old: Create new, quarantine-approved holiday traditions.
• Establish traditions within your immediate family – make holiday decorations, make a home-made gift, cook a special meal.
• Instead of in-person visits with friends, family or even Santa, consider fun ways to have a video interaction, write letters or make cards.
• Don’t punish children for having a negative reaction to holiday changes this year. Tell them that it’s okay to feel sad, disappointed or angry.
• Find the positive and teach positive self-talk. For example, “Since we don’t have to travel, we get extra time to relax and play at home.” 
  6-12 years old: Help your child cope with holiday blues – and build resilience for the future.
• At this age, children understand the precautions that need to be taken due to COVID-19.
• Validate their feelings of disappointment and sadness about changes to their holiday traditions: It’s normal and OK to feel angry, frustrated or sad.
• Remember that helping children overcome disappointment helps them build resiliency.
• Ask them for their ideas about how to make the holiday special.
• Teach fun relaxation strategies – try yoga for the first time, or practice slowly breathing in and out the scent of a favorite treat, lotion or candle. 
  13-18 years old: Ask, listen and encourage COVID-safe holiday activities.
• Ask teens how they are feeling.
• Let them know you are there if they need to talk.
• Listen! Often, teens just want someone to listen and not solve the problem for them.
• Offer perspective on the situation by looking at the big picture.
• Allow them a sense of control by giving them choices – maybe to have friend over on a different day to celebrate the holiday, or allow them to plan a special activity.
• Encourage positive social activities to honor the holiday season, such as how to volunteer in a socially distanced way.  
  ​Parents and caregivers: Manage your own disappointment about this holiday season.
• Allow yourself to feel sad, worried or angry.
• Do something to nurture yourself.
• Adjust your expectations.
• Look at the big picture.
• Children take cues from their parents. If you maintain a positive, festive and calm demeanor, your kids will pick up on that and do the same.
• In addition to finding ways to understand and support the feelings of your kids, you can also find creative ways to celebrate the holidays despite the pandemic. We’ve included a few suggestions in the Related Links below.
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  Let this be your guide to finding all the hope, peace, joy and sense of renewal that a traditional holiday season brings.
  Related Links
• 14 Ways to Have a Safe Halloween During COVID-19, Even in Quarantine
• 8 Ways to Celebrate a Virtual Thanksgiving During COVID-19
• For Happier Holidays in Quarantine, Practice Gratitude This Thanksgiving
• Tips and Tools to Support Your Child’s Mental Health